this could just as easily have read:
Three Strikes - You're Out!But I learned some lessons from strikes one & two. There is actually sooooooooooo much to say on this subject that the entire blog could be about the lessons I've learned from my three marriages. But here's the biggie :
Getting married is easywe don't want to hear that when we're planning our big day
Getting divorced is easy (legally - not necessarily emotionally)
Being married is hard work
Hard work that is so, so worth it
(read more about this in part B)
we don't want to admit it when we're married and something isn't "quite right"
we all want to think that what we have is special and transcendent and different from the rest
we're absolutely right of course
but we can't ignore the fact that even special transcendent love requires effort and maintenance!
I mean, why would marriage be different from everything else in life???
knowing this is just the first step
but it's the most important step
because if you know it's hard work you can make the decision to do it
and reap the rewards!
I'd love for us to discuss more about this work from two standpoints ~
the work that needs to be done if you're considering marriage
the work that needs to be done when you are marriedPlease let me know what you think, what you've learned, what you want to know